Job Cemetery

I have been grieving for the past three years over the loss of my job and my failure at obtaining another... Today I have decided  I am ready for the final step in grief, "acceptance."

I thought my grief would never end when I lost my beloved mother. I learned a lot about grief following her death. Such as... death is a part of life; life is very short; the importance of relationship; how your life is forever changed; life goes on; memories are all that remain and eventually time lessens the pain.

After losing my job I remained optimistic after all I never had a problem obtaining a J-O-B. I thought that I would have a new job next week. after all, I've worked all my life sometimes having two jobs. However, after days turned into weeks, weeks into months, months into years, grief set in.

Of course, I exhibited the common symptoms of grief: shock, disbelief, sadness, guilt, anger, fear, depression, and many physical ailments.

Then I went through  all the stages -

Denial - I can't believe this is happening to me. I have never had a problem obtaining job.

Anger - I was looking for someone to blame for this. This is just evil. Why me God?

Bargaining - God if you are listening let's make a deal. Bless me with a job please and I promise to...

Depression - I'm angry, frustrated, discouraged, hopeless and I give up. Hundreds of resumes and cover letters were emailed. The silence and covert rejection from potential employers was just too much.

Acceptance - Through all the prayers, wishing, hoping and believing, I've accepted my situation and am at peace with what has happened to me.


Queen of Hearts

Living Life With Lemons

When life gives you LEMONS make LEMONADE!

 Lately life has given me an orchard full of lemons

 

 and I am still working on making lemonade.

 

While enjoying my lemonade I will remember:

Everything must change nothing stays the same.

What didn't kill me only made me stronger.

Queen Of Hearts





New Year's Wish 2012

Wishing all my friends and family love, peace and prosperity in 2012.

Queen of Hearts

The Agony of Da Feet

Everyone has something about their body they would change if they could. We are rarely satisfied with what God gave us. I wonder if God is sensitive about his creations like most artist are.

I have a very dominate gene that runs throughout my DNA and when you mix your DNA with another individual's DNA, you never know how those genes will mix. This gene is so dominate that I tried to make a deal with God. 

If I could ask God for anything it would be an arch. Yes, an arch. An arch for my two feet.

I have flat feet and they have caused me lots of grief over the years. When your feet are flat it's like walking on your ankles.

It affects my posture and I can't always do what people with  normal feet can. My feet hurt when I stand, walk or run for long periods of time. I can't wear cute stylish heels or the latest flats because my feet look deformed in some shoes. I can remember children teasing me asking me, " why do you have duck feet?"  "Why do your feet lean over in your shoes?"  "When take your shoes off, why are your shoes hecka wide?"   Oh Lawd,  the agony of not having an arch. 

When I was pregnant with my first child, I thought about all the things about me I didn't want my child(ren) to inherit. Flat feet was it. I made a simple request to God.

Me: Dear God, I know every good and perfect gift comes from you. I thank you that my womb is blessed.

God could you please not give my baby flat feet?

Of course God did not answer me right then. However, God does have a funny sense of humor and in time God did answer me.

Me: Thank you GOD for my daughter who is beautiful and perfect in every way. But, she has flat feet! Sigh.*

Me: Okay God, I understand. I had the audacity to tell you how to do your job. I'm sorry.

God: I blessed you  with five beautiful children and five beautiful grandchildren all who are fearfully and wonderfully made. Everything I make is good.

Me: Thank you God. I'm grateful for my blessings flat feet and all.

Queen of Hearts

Worried? Not me.

There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever.~ Mohandas Gandhi

It seems a lot of folks are worried about things today. However, I found the solution to worry. 

See diagram below.

Queen of Hearts

I'M IN! - OBAMA 2012

 

 I was so proud when we elected Barack Hussein Obama, President of the United States of America.

I love my President!

Last month I became a volunteer at a local grass roots office to help re-elect President Obama. I've  been making phone calls and recruiting others to join us in making him a two-term president.

Remember what then President - elect Obama said in his speech back on November 5, 2008? "Yes We Can" not Yes, I Can. Now is not the time for us withdraw our help, turn our backs, cop out, put him down or believe the lies of the biased media.

In 2008 history was made.  Let's carry the same enthusiasm, excitement,and  momentum into 2012.   We have a beautiful first family.Let's continue to pray for their safety.  President Obama is a great family man who is  loved and adored by his wife and daughters. He is a brilliant man who is committed, has dignity, integrity and a vision for our future.

Since President Obama took office, he inherited  record deficits, high unemployment, two wars, health care system in crisis, depressed economy and a multitude of other problems. He has the weight of the world on his shoulders and has been engaged in an uphill battle with a plethora of opponents working against him. I don't know of any other president who has been so overtly disrespected. The endless lies about his birthplace and citizenship. Rush Limbaugh saying, "I hope Obama fails." Journalist Mark Halperin had the audacity to call  President Obama a "dick." Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnel saying, "The single most important thing we want to achieve is for President Obama to be a one-term president."

Being President of the United States is a daunting job. I am convinced that this highly intelligent man is doing the best he can given all the opposition he faces daily. Is he perfect? No. Have I disagreed at times? Yes. Have I questioned some of his decisions? Yes.  Do I still believe in him? Yes I do.

President Obama has a substantial record of  accomplishments and kept many of his promises. Many changes have begun and will continue if he is re-elected. Our President can not campaign the way he did in 2008 as he is a sitting president.Therefore, we must step-up and do it for him.   Let's re-elect President Obama to a second term.

Are you IN?

www.barackobama.com 

Queen of Hearts

The Golden Ticket

If you live in California and speak Spanish, you hold the " golden ticket."

Spanish speaking people are the fastest growing minority group in America and soon will become the majority according to U.S. Census.  Many of the new immigrants are choosing not assimilate but instead maintain their culture and language and not speak or learn English.

 English is the standard language of the United States. If you migrated here and want citizenship, you need to learn to speak English.

Bilingual jobs are in high demand.You are a very valuable employee if you are bilingual. Most employers offer higher pay in order to recruit and retain bilingual employees. There is a pay differential that can get you an extra 20% per hour hour or more. Most human service or customer service jobs need bilingual workers. If you speak Spanish you have the "golden ticket" to employment in law enforcement, medical, social work, hotels, banks and the list goes on.

 I just completed an intensive 12-Week post- bachelor internship program in the psychosocial rehabilitation model of mental health services. Each week I was required to apply for a job in hopes that I would be hired by the time the internship was over.  Before applying for this internship I had been unemployed for over two years and had sent out hundreds of cover letters and resumes with not response. I blamed the bad economy.  During the employment preparation lecture, the facilitator stood before the group and stated, "you have the golden ticket if you speak Spanish. This means you can maneuver in two worlds. Place that information at the top of your resume so it is seen right away." Hearing that information, I became a little discouraged. Nevertheless, I continued to apply for jobs. Now the internship has ended and I remain unemployed.

At the end of each job post were familiar words that disqualified me from a job I was otherwise qualified to do.

-Must be Fluent in Spanish

-Bilingual Spanish/English required

-Bilingual A Plus

-Spanish speaking required

-Bi-lingual Spanish preferred
-Must be able read/write Spanish

The moral of this post is: Get the "GOLDEN TICKET" or be left out!

Queen of Hearts